This is inspired by recent conversations with Aubrey Spears regarding contraception. See also my previous article on contraception.
The Parable
A master prepared to go on a journey and said to the keepers of his house, “I am going to send a messenger here bearing a treasure of mine, which is worth more than my whole house and estate and everything else that belongs to me, for I wish to place it in the locked safe within the inner rooms of my house. And because of the hostility of the surrounding country, I am going to send him in secret, so that no one will know of his coming and going, not even you.” So he instructed them to leave open a certain small door, so that the messenger would find it open whenever he came.
But after a while wild animals and livestock and vagabonds and highwaymen found their way into the courtyard and the outer rooms of the house by way of this open door, and the keepers of the house had great trouble. Some of them feared, saying “We will be killed, and the house ruined, if this goes on,” and others grumbled against the master’s command. So they gathered together and said to each other, “Our master did not say that we were to keep the door ALWAYS open, did he? Therefore, let us open it for an hour only, every night, and lock it again, that we will not be always plagued by these intruders. And if the messenger desires greatly enough to enter, he will wait by the door until that hour of night and keep trying to enter, and then, when we open it, he will come in.” So they began opening the door for an hour only, at night, and locking it again.
But it happened that soon after, the messenger came, and sought to enter the door, but finding it locked, he stayed by and continued to try it. But when the vagabonds and highwaymen saw him at the door, they came and beat him and stole away the treasure.
Soon after that, the master of the house returned, and going to his safe, he opened it, to make sure the treasure was safe and sound. But he found the safe empty! Then the keepers were quick to say, “My lord, the messenger never came!” But the master investigated the matter, and discovered what they had done.
Then the master said to them, “Wicked servants! Did I not tell you that this treasure was of more importance than all the belongings of my house? Did you not trust me to take thought of all that was mine, and to see to your well being as well, as a good master? And if you feared that the house would be overrun, could you not have left the other tasks appointed to you, and set up a guard at the door? But you did not wish to turn away from your own pursuits enough to hold such vigil!” What then will the master do to those servants? Indeed, only his mercy would keep them out of the dungeons.
The Argument
If a master discloses his general purpose for something to a servant, and the servant acts so as to partially prevent that purpose from occurring, without consulting his master to ask for permission for the exemption, then he always does this out of a fear or doubt in the master, that is, in the master’s goodness or his competence.
Married people do not know whether God will choose any given marriage act as the one through which to bring about children (or, to put this in the case of the use of contraception, they do not know whether he would have intended it had they not prevented it).
If God has made it known to his people that the conception of children is something he generally intends to bring about by means of their marriage acts, and one admits this, and yet, having not obtained any exception from him, nevertheless attempts to avoid God’s bringing about that general intention in a particular marriage act, then it can only be out of fear of God’s goodness or competence.
All things done out of fear of God’s goodness or competence are wrong.
Therefore, contraception is, for those who acknowledge God’s general purpose, inevitably wrong.
Nor would God ever grant such an exception to his children, for a contraceptive act wounds the soul, and he desires our good.
This is true even for those for whom the prospect of having a child is the most daunting; indeed, it is especially true for them. Who are the people whose trauma makes it good for them to engage in sex while saying to God, “we refuse to bear a child through this but we are doing it anyway”? For whom is that kind of sex good? For whom is the secret avoidance of God’s purposes a balm? Who are they for whom selfishness and inward bent is a blessing? Those who are afraid of having a child, and at the same time afraid of periodically giving up sex, are among those who most need their sexual lives redeemed. It is precisely those who have strong reasons to want to use contraception—whether for debt or age or children already—who stand most to benefit from God’s command, for it is against the closure and predetermination of their hearts that his law stands guard. It is precisely these whose sexuality can be blessed by God through obedience, whether through being open to receive a gift from God, or through the self-discipline of periodic abstinence. It is no pastoral kindness to say to people “if it is too hard for you, do not be distressed—go and do this act which carries within it an inevitable disposition away from God’s grace and self-sufficiency.”
So much for the idea of encouraging contraception out of pastoral magnanimity. That leaves only the encouragement of contraception out of pastoral fear—fear of those others who will balk at the message and turn away from our churches if we express this hard teaching, as those who turned away from Christ at his teaching about his body. But “to whom shall we go”? How can we preach tolerance of contraception, the mother-thought of the sexual revolution, when the ideas sprung from her womb are ravaging our culture with ever-increasing violence? May God give us the courage to speak truth in love, without fear of evildoers.
